I wasn’t gonna write anything about it. It was a leisure Tea with my family. So I was fully present…not thinking about critiques or notes. I took one photo of the tier, just to have one for remembrance. But- IT WAS SOO GOOD!! (whiny face emoji)

Since I’m not actively on socials but go on once in a great while to share a Story really quick or something…on one of those occasions, I saw an ad. It was The Ritz in San Francisco, something about a Pineapple Tea. I was intrigued and thought we should have an opportunity at a re-do, since the HMB one was so severely bad. (which by the way, my review on our awful experience at the Half Moon Bay Ritz still til this day gets tons of traffic!) Called the trusty Cuties and they were up for redemption as well. Because our schedule is + always packed to the rim/filled to the brim…we thankfully found a day to go. But just shy of the last weekend it would be offered, so that’s why I wasn’t gonna really tell anybody we went. Didn’t want to tease you guys with it, and then yall might not have had an opportunity to go before the theme was done. Even still, THIS is worth mentioning!

The actual experience was called “Summer Pineapple Afternoon Tea” and I did not realize (until now, referring back to the ad I sent them) it was MAUI GOLD Pineapple and that this was going to have a tropical vibe. So- fully didn’t expect but was absolutely pleasantly surprised to see KELAGUEN!! on the menu and things like calamansi and guava!? (three open mouth emojis) [Read about the only other time we were offered Kelaguen at a tea service on our review from the wonderful Kiki’s Coffee Shop that I miss and can’t wait until they get back to serving again.]

Everything was deeelectable and made us completely forget about those nasty gluten-free 2-hour sandwiches from HMB. The teas were spot on and some of our favorite items were the Heirloom Corn Tart and Chicken Kelaguen Mini Taco. And for sweets: the Strawberry Calamansi Cheesecake (SO smooth) and Piña Colada Cake (the lightest and most airy thing ever).

Of course I had thee best time with my family (the Huz + Cutie Girls, missing Cutie’s Mr.) and our Welcome Beverage (Veuve Clicquot Rosé Champagne) made it a parTEA! We were well taken care of by the SWEETEST girl and she showed us a fun time!

The last time I went to The Ritz in the City was June 2015. And if you’ve read about that visit (if you haven’t, go ahead I’ll give you some time) you’ll know all about Ramesh! He was our server then and because he was so gracious, dubbed my “Boyfriend” haha. I didn’t see any sign of him today and didn’t think he would still work there anyhow. (Tho we later learned that lots of the servers still there are loyal ones from over a decade ago!) At the table, we all joked that he probably owned the joint now hahah. While we were getting to know our server, I casually brought him up and she said she knew him…cuz she had worked back then with him too! And get this- he OWNS TWO other restaurants!!! Hahahaha! What are the chances, how did we know!? Good for him! Anyway, now we have plans to go try them. Our family also loves to Brunch, so we will be checking out one of his spots in the near future! Too funny + too cool.

So I can’t really tell you to go try this one, cuz it’s gonna be gone soon. But they still offer Afternoon Tea Service year round AND they will be opening their newly remodeled Lounge coming October, so check them out for that too! We def will be back.

New Menu Visit:

Muir’s Tea Room

330 S Main Street Sebastopol, CA 94572

www.muirstearoomandcafe.com

No one knows this, but Greece has a special place in my heart. If you’re a Reader or Follower and know how to reach me, you’ll have to ask me why next time we chat. (wink)

Those who have been here a while, know how I feel about Muir’s Tea Room and where they place on my meter. (another wink, hashtag if-you-know-you-know) (and if you don’t know, well catch up! Haha) It’s only so NORMAL that I would be there their first day back [from their annual July break] to try their new menu for you guys. And hello- it’s GREECE-inspired!!?! (raising hand emoji) Yess pleasse!

[Also, Disclosure… Ugh. So after uploading all the great shots I got from today’s tea service…all my files were corroded!! (Corrupted? But I like how ‘corroded’ sounds better ha) Thank goodnessss I take backup shots on my phone. (sweat bead emoji) So that’s what I have for yall today.]

Butterfly Bellini (peach and tangerine juice with prosecco) and English Garden (cherry, pomegranate and elderberry juice mixed with grenadine and prosecco) – I mean do you even have to wonder?! Of course I’m doing one of their prosecco cocktails…they make em SO GOOD. Was feelin peachy today! This one is nostalgic + comforting for me. I enjoyed every sip and even made noise with my straw at the bottom! The Huz wanted to try their English Garden and finished his too.

Muir’s Signature Butter Beer (non-alcoholic) – I don’t know why we’ve never tried one of these before!? But so happy we did, that was delicious + fun!

Pistachio Black Tea (strong, spicy, earthy blend complete with nutty pistachio and ennobled by rose petals) – They redid their menus and we liked it. This is newish on the list, so he went for it. Said it was kind savory and nice.

The Queen’s Rose Garden (mixed by Muir’s, sweet rose petals lend their soft touch to this beautiful well loved favorite tea, which is richly enhanced by warm, sweet vanilla) – I can’t remember when’s the last time I’ve had their Queen’s Rose but it was a great choice for me! Yall know I’m a Maple Walnut GIRL. But I think this is a new favorite!? Super duper creamy!! I had several cups.

Santorini at Sunset Horiatiki Salata (a fresh greek village salad with romaine lettuce, tomatoes, cucumbers, red onion, kalamata olives, and feta “cheese,” dressed with freshly made mediterranean vinaigrette) – Their salads are “lick the fork” worthy mmkay, nuff said? I already got excited when I saw the white squares!! I have been a red onion fanatic lately, so I was so happy to see those. The tomatoes were so sweet and the olives brought a welcome saltiness. It was nice to eat LEAVES (again, iykyk) and not be scared, cuz I knew they were from a reputable source.

Posted 2 cuzzz I wanted to, haha.

Handsome Heracles’s Heroic Portokalopita (orange zest scone with apricots, served with house made lemon curd, clotted “cream” and imported preserves) – The bite into those chopped pieces of apricot was what texture dreams are made of. It was still so warm and comforting. So much tart flavor.

Sea Nymph Cucumber & Chive Tea Sandwich – I will never get over biting into that STACK of crunchy cucumbers. And how generous with all the chives. Put them in between each one of my teeth, I don’t care! I love em!!

The Immortals’ Celestial Spanakopita Spiral (tender flaky puff pastry filled with fresh spinach, Greek “cheese” and herbs) – Brilliant. It just tastes like there’s loads of butter between every layer…but I know there isn’t. But the tastebuds + brain still wanna believe there is!

Devine Dolphin Tonosalata (Greek chickpea “tuna” salad finger sandwich with red onion, dill and lemon) – That celery!! Perfect bread choice for this too. This was the Huz’s favorite. I even saved the last bite of mine for him…that’s Love!

The Midas Touch Agginaropita (phyllo shell filled with artichoke and hearts of palm) – I wish I got a picture of this one and the Sausage next to each other, alone on the tier, waiting for me cuz I saved them for last…cuz they’re my Favorites!! He asked me a question as I took my bite and I needed a moment. Somehow it’s smokey and a tiny tiny tiny bit of spice in there. Like howww do you pack such greatness in a little shell??

Golden Laurel Souvlaki Tea Sandwich (seasoned “sausage” slices and roasted red peppers) – The chew of the bread, the bite through sausage, that sauce. Gimme 10. Pronto. Savored every moment.

Clever King Odysseus’s Ingenious Fasolakia Lathera Tart (the classic Greek dish of perfectly seasoned fresh green beans gently braised with olive oil, tomatoes, garlic, and potato in fluffy pastry dough) – The potato. (crying emoji) Who knows my love affair with their potato salad? (Hint: Click on our very first visit with them at the bottom of this blog post) Perrrrfect cook on those.

Wise Pallas Athena’s Thought Provoking Baklava (golden layered phyllo with walnuts) – I was so happy for the Huz with these cuz he luhs him some baklava. That was good, and I’m not even a walnut-lover. I swear, some of that ooey goodness dripped down my chin.

Beguiling Aphrodite’s Decadent Love Spell Sokolatopita (traditional Greek chocolate cake with ganache) – THIS tho. OH GIRL. There’s depth to that chocolate. I can taste the layers of flavor. The texture is everything too.

We were thrilllllllllled to be invited to try this tea service. Did I wake up in Mykonos or what?! I’m not well (or any) versed in mythology…but the names they come up with for each stunning item on those tiers are always so creative! Got to spend time with Mom + Chef too, which is always the best part. Our server today was darling too. Thank you so much Muir’s for having us!! Let me tell you- it’s a near 2-hour drive for us whenever we go…and we would happily make that trek DAILY. If you haven’t yet, plan to see them and try this menu. You only have through September!

Our Followers from our Instagram account may be gradually dwindling (as people notice we aren’t exactly “active” on there), BUT that does not reflect the booming numbers I get every week on this website! Thank you to our Loyal Readers and Donators. It means so much. You can still follow on IG (thanks to those that haven’t left), I post a Story here + there. Thanks too to the real ones who are subscribed here!!

All Muir’s Tea Room related posts:

Spot #28 :: Muir’s Tea Room

Spot Revisit :: Muir’s Tea Room (#28) – Best Overall

NEW MENU ALERT! Muir’s Tea Room | Alice in Wonderland

NEW MENU ALERT! Muir’s Tea Room | Holoholo Tiki Tea

NEW MENU ALERT! Muir’s Tea Room | Winter Woodland Wonderland

NEW MENU ALERT! Muir’s Tea Room | Mystical Mermaids of the World

NEW MENU ALERT! Muir’s Tea Room | Winter in the Italian Alps

I was getting nervous. (not really, but it’s fun to say that!) Since my retirement, I’ve still been to Tea at least once a month! (grin emoji) For those that like random bits of information just as much as I like listing it…

November 2025 – The Caviar Co. (3rd time)

December 2025 – The Caviar Co. (4th time)

January 2026 – Muir’s Collab

February 2026 – Crown & Crumpet Last Visit

March 2026 – Huz Date: Rosewood Sand Hill

April 2026 – Huz Date: Dartealing Lounge + Sister Date: Lovey’s Tea Shoppe

May 2026 – Cuties May Tradition: The Ritz-Carlton HMB

June 2026 – Bar Tea, The Fat Pigeon + Huz Date: KOPI Bar and Bakery

Which I never showed you a pic of… Was happy to have been invited back, as they really stepped up their game! (read our previous review here) Def more savories, like LOTS more! Want to go back again for sure.

So back to my being nervous… I have tea plans already in August, but nothing was popping up yet in July. And it’s not even like I HAVE to do Tea once a month, not at all. It’s just FUN to hahah!! Me + my OCD wanted to keep the streak going! I thought I was gonna try Dartealing’s new menu (cuz their last one ended in June)…

Now, I’m not on socials. Yall know that. But I checked something real quick on my Blog account (you can still follow IG @parTEAwithmeBlog as I might occasionally post a Story or an update) and (while I have multiple) decided to check a single DM that came from one of my girlfriends just 39-minutes ago. Her nicknames are “Seat Mate Date/Wife of Filipino” on the blog posts and she quickly became a new Regular because she was so easy to make plans with, so much fun to be around. It was a reel about a tea service I did NOT want to miss! (that her girlfriend actually sent to HER, knowing she loves to parTEA with us!) I texted her right away and because this Tea was only available for 3 weekends…made plans to go the soonest we were available. Which was Sunday (the only day that I could possibly squeeze this in), and we just texted on Thursday!! Her Foodie Husband was already on board checking the parking situation there, my Huz was now in, and the Cutie Girls couldn’t make it (missed you boos) but Cutie’s Mr. was coming fo sho!

It was a BEAUTY AND THE BEAST themed Tea yall.

The musical is playing at the Orpheum so the Fairmont decided to do a special menu in honor of the show! You only have 2 more weekends to try this tea service and you don’t wanna miss it! (see, this is why joining our email list is important…then you won’t miss out on these!)

I loved it all tho. Deffffinitely stepped up their game since the last time I’ve been. (which was in June 2016 btw!) We had great service (thank you Wu!) and VIP parking (thank you Tony!).

The scones were slammin. Lots + lots of cherries and crispy edges.

The Grey Stuff tho. Boyyy. That was my favorite. You’ll have to come and forreal TRY IT!! Everything had adorable names that were nods to the movie. The collection of tea sandwiches and sweets were on par!

But of course, it was my company. The company always makes the experience. We drove over together and took a walk to see the Rooftop Garden after. So much fun with these guys, even tho me + my girl were outnumbered by the boys! Hehe. Love my family.

Join our email list if you haven’t already. You will not wanna miss what’s coming in a few weeks! See you then! (kissie emoji)

I’ve included many a link in text messages to friends, in DM’s (for those requesting recommendations), on Threads…you name it. And sometimes the cover photo for that blog post hit, and sometimes it didn’t. Ugh, especially for the “my raTEAng” ones that highlighted the nasty teapot spout from iChina yuckth.

Recently, Iii maay haaave stumbled on the option within my website host dashboard that allows me to SELECT the feature image for that post whenever I send it!!?! (three open mouth emojis) Well whaddya know!? How cool! I mean, I guess I’m sure I knew there was a way…hehe. I just wasn’t keen to it haha! (Yes, for over 10 years leave me alone!)

Anyway, once I found this- oh it was on. I went through each and every post I’ve ever created and carefully designated the PERFECT PICTURE that set the tone for my review or update or author piece. It was so much fun!

So as I’m scrolling through HUNDREDS of media photos of stunning tiers and steeped cuppas and distinctive interior design… I start realizing just HOW MANY incredible tea services I’ve had the opportunity to experience and gorgeous + delectable foods I got to try, interesting places I’ve been and unforgettable people I’ve met. And I was floored. How was this my life…?

I felt just so honored and privileged and blessed. What a life I have lived…

The gratitude I feel for all those who have read or followed or donated to this website, all the friends + family who have parTEA’d with me, the numerous owners of tea rooms and hotels I’ve gotten to know- is immense. THANK YOU for naming me “Queen of Tea in the Bay Area”, I don’t take that title lightly.

Over a decade. I wanted to take the Huz here over a decade ago, hehe. (covering mouth smiling emoji) I’ve been to Dartealing Lounge in the City many times. First time was in April of 2015. And then did an official Revisit in February 2024, during Leg 3 of the Tour for “Best Sandwiches”. You could see which one I’m obsessed with here. But sprinkled in between, I’ve taken numerous friends and hosted countless tea parties there. They’re pretty high up on my raTEAng and it’s always the sandwiches I come back for. I’ve been wanting him to try…

We were supposed to go up to Tiburon (if you know why I go there, you’re a real one) for their Spring appearance. I’ve been back for every month they’ve offered since I tried their tea service for the first time over a year ago (they only do it 3-4 times a year, and I NEED every single one haha). But since he still hadn’t been to Dartealing’s, we made a quick switcheroo. It just so happened they were just starting their “Latin Flair” tea service menu and we were happy to try it! Ugh (whiny face emoji), when I tell you these were some of the most inventive flavors and offerings… You have to go. Now. I mean, get on your phone and start typing in their website to make online reservations NOW cuz you only have til June!! Come on!

And of course they still offered a fish sandwich. And of course I still ordered it. And of course I still devoured every. Last. Morsel.

They’re doing new menus every 3 months and we have every intention of coming back to try them all. Also, always a pleasure to catch up and chat with the owner and hear all her creative brilliance. She’s been in the game a while and their longevity is attributed to her authenticity for the art of afternoon tea. An amazing human being with lots to share for her community. You want a TRUE afternoon tea experience with an unmistakable trademark feel + taste that sets them apart- come to Dartealing Lounge.

Nearly 2 years ago, I was supposed to take my dear friend to Lovey’s… But, life happened. So after much loss and many-a doctor’s appointment, here we finally were! Long awaited, much anticipated, and very needed + deserved. Tho we only live an hour or so away, we made believe we were on vacation! I took her to a shop close by and we shared a nice coastal walk, breathing in all that VITAMIN SEA!! It was a gorgeous day in Pacifica, thanks to our Creator.

She’s a Tea Lover and Cup + Saucer Collector, so it was only right to introduce her to the beloved Lovey’s Tea Shoppe! She enjoyed a delicious cuppa of their Royal Blend (a black tea with vanilla and grenadine) and went on a little spree. I was so happy for her! Also nice to see the Lovey’s Team and they always treat me and any guest I take so so well. Thank you G + G!! Until next time… (hopefully not in 2 years!)

We also have a new country to give a *shout out* to… Hello to our Nigeria Readers and thank you for visiting our little neck of the woods on the internet! Thank you again to all our loyal Followers still rockin with us (do people still say that?) on our socials and maintaining our high views here. Love yall lots. Thanks too to those who donate, always.

Can’t wait to tell you what we have going on in May!! Check back!

Last Visit:

Crown & Crumpet

22 Ross Common Ross, CA 94957

crownandcrumpet.com

I had a post all ready in mind, feeling proud to announce that I hadn’t had any afternoon tea rendezvous in February (since yes, I have had Leisure Teas in each past months since I’ve retired hehe), buut- I COULD NOT MISS THIS ONE. Since I’m off all my social media accounts, someone (Thank you boo!) sent me a screenshot of Crown’s announcement post that they were closing!! NO WAY. I had to hop on my IG real quick to see for myself and message their owner. Worked out what I could in my schedule to finagle a visit and in minutes time I booked a table a day before their last, whew.

For those that don’t know, Crown & Crumpet was my first ever Spot on this Tea Tour.

As always, was greeted so warmly by Miss Amy! Caught up a bit about their closure and my retirement… Had the most amazing (as per ushe.) tea service. Their fresh toasted Crumpets, I always have to have first. Delicious Stardust Tea, ugh I love me a clove tea. And (I wanna cry just thinking about it) their SLAMMIN Honey Roasted Ham with English Cheddar & Granny Smith Apple tea sandwich!! It was the perfect afternoon before we had to say ‘goodbye’…for now. You can still see them for pop-ups, events + classes at the Marin Art and Garden Center maringarden.org Please also keep in touch with Crown & Crumpet on their website (link above) and socials @crownandcrumpet *Special Shout-Out* to the sweet couple we met at the table next to us and got to chatting for a bit! We absolutely adored you, D + C!

Until we see you again, Crown & Crumpet! YOU WILL ALWAYS BE MY FIRST!!!

All Crown & Crumpet related posts:

Spot #1 :: Crown & Crumpet Tea Stop Cafe

Spot #38 :: Crown & Crumpet Ross

New Menu Visit:

Muir’s Tea Room

330 S Main Street Sebastopol, CA 94572

www.muirstearoomandcafe.com

[photo cred (no big-salad’ing here) to the Huz from his iPhone]

You think I could be kept away from Muir’s?? Never!! OF COURSE I was going to be there on the very first day of this brand new theme: Muir’s Tè Invernale Alpino! We got sat at this romantic corner. Table for 2, me + the Huz, during our anni month hehe. (we make 23 years married on the 25th, wowza) And in true Muir’s Tea Room fashion, the music selection was perfect.

We always have to order one of their Prosecco Cocktails, cuz they make em just SO GOOD. Lots of luscious sparkling wine, with a healthy splash of their signature juices mixes.

Red Robin (tart cherry juice with prosecco) – Exactly what I wanted. It was cinnamony and spicy, and still had the flavor of the prosecco which is my jam. I always say: “Any day I have champagne (or sparking wine), is a good day!”

Sebastopol Apple Blossom (apple essence with prosecco) – He said it was crisp + refreshing!

Maple Walnut Green Tea – I had just run out of this at home, so I already knew on the drive over that this is what I was ordering! Haha. Fix, satisfied.

Lime Chiffon Rooibos Tea – We love a citrus chiffon tea ’round here. Mmm, lime rind and creamy tea. Ugh, so good this one.

Val Gardena Antipasta Chopped Insalata – I wanna say that this is probably the ONLY tea room or afternoon tea service where I finish the salad. (if I was at home, I would legit probably lick the plate…haha, shh don’t tell) They tried something a little different with their salad this time, and they did good! I can’t stress enoughh just how much I loved those little cubes of “cheese”. So fun and so so creamy! I coulda had 35 of them joints on mine.

Traditional Italian Amarena Cherry & Almond Scone – Something different with the scone today too. The tart cherries and their lemon curd paired wonderfully together.

Gran Dolomiti Cucumber with Chives Tea Sandwich – Me after I took my first bite: “it’s Muir’s.”

Santa Maddalena Pesto, Fagiloi Bianchi & vine ripe tomato Finger Sandwich – Okay, that tasted like Nonna just made it for your afterschool snack! The basil came through nicely and those were the juiciest tomatoes of all the tomatoes.

Bellagio Hearts of Palm & Artichoke Heart Vol Au Vent – My eyes rolled back in my head a little. Delicate crispy pastry you can bite through every delicious induvial layer. The green onions!! And I could not believe that was plant-based. This was both our favorite. Saved my last bite for my last bite of this service.

La Vetta Fungo Tarta with Castagne (mushroom & chestnut tart) – I wanna cry! So savory. I love chestnut anything.

Tre Cime di Lavaredo Spinach and Garlic Puff Pastry – That pastry melts in your mouth. And there was just so much of it!

Cortina d’Ampezzo Fireside Pepper & “Sausage” Tartine – Me (whining): “What is that?!” Him: “Love.” I was so excited to have this one cuz it resembled the one from their Alice Tea Service, my favorite!! Ate this one slowly cuz I savored every moment!

Mont Blanc Biscotto al Cioccolato e Nocciole (chocolate hazelnut cookie) – The cookie part!! The texture with the sugar crystals!! (whiny emoji face) I loved this.

Trentino Tiramisu Cupcake – It’s like sticky and I like it. The frosting is super light.

So they tried something new with this tea service and I am not mad at it one bit. Did you count? Go ahead, scroll down, I’ll wait… SIX Savories and two sweets!! You guys already know how I feel about this one. I’ve commented on many a service that has like 15 different sugary items, and then only 2 salty ones. I don’t like that!! (steamy nostrils emoji) I love love loved that Muir’s did more savories than sweets. And not just that, but not too many sweets either. The 2 they served were such good quality, it was just enough. And they always have a bounty of fresh fruits on their tiers too (the Huz always loves those).

Um, so… At dinner tonight, I was LEGIT trying to see if I can finagle coming back before this theme is over!!! HAHAHA! They always do a good job and I don’t say this at every theme I have of theirs… But forreal- this was my favorite one. Period!! My Italian Grandfather would be proud. They are serving it through February (planned this whole thing before they even knew the Olympics were gonna be in Cortina this year!) so if at all possible = GO!! If you need a date, I’m available. Hahah.

A TREMENDOUS THANK YOU to all our loyal Readers!! We had a new country visiting…hello + welcome to the people of Lithuania! And one random Sunday, our views skyrocketed to 123X (yes, that says ONE HUNDRED TWENTY-THREE TIMES!!) the views from the day before!!?! The most views in one day for parTEA with me history!! I don’t know who shared our website or where and who went viral hehe- but THANK YOU SO MUCH!!! Honestly, our website views have been the most consistently high they’ve ever been!? And we’re not even on social media whaaat!!?! Thank you thank you thank you. (three heart emojis) (three kissy face emojis)

All Muir’s Tea Room related posts:

Spot #28 :: Muir’s Tea Room

Spot Revisit :: Muir’s Tea Room (#28) – Best Overall

NEW MENU ALERT! Muir’s Tea Room | Alice in Wonderland

NEW MENU ALERT! Muir’s Tea Room | Holoholo Tiki Tea

NEW MENU ALERT! Muir’s Tea Room | Winter Woodland Wonderland

NEW MENU ALERT! Muir’s Tea Room | Mystical Mermaids of the World

STORY TIME: I was trying to think of where to start this, and realized it stems as far back as our wedding day in January 2003. The plan was to be wed surrounded by ocean views at my dream location: The Lighthouse Hotel in Pacifica. The intimate 25-people ceremony we initially wanted was vetoed by our grandiose narc bio moms, so we needed more space to accommodate their egos. Plan B – Have a beach wedding on our favorite beach in HMB. Since January is winter and beaches are outdoor, that too was out of the question. We just wanted to be married… We gave in and allowed our mothers to have the show they both needed, 300+ people later, nowhere near a beach.

We wanted to do a big 10 Year. But the way events in our life worked, it was going to have to be a big 11th hehe. Again, my dream of that Lighthouse Hotel filled my headspace. It was 2012 and I got to work with brainstorming and planning. I started a Pinterest Board. “Farmhouse decor” wasn’t yet so big at the time, so I wasn’t really able to find my vision on the internet. I just pictured lots of white linen, burlap table runners, and lots + lots of mason jars!! It was going to be clean + minimal, with a touch of farmhouse, shabby chic, and beachy elements. I love me a good mismatchy moment. So I wasn’t gonna just BUY uniform mason jars at the store. I was going to drink, eat, and use all the things that came in different heights and thicknesses of mason jars, so that I could have them as decor for my party! And I had 2 years to do this!! (of course my family helped, and we thrifted some too)

When you’re excited about something, you tell people right!? I shared with a few close friends about my party plans, because I was thrilled to be having the wedding event that I(we) originally wanted. “Lots of white linen…burlap…mason jars…”

A friend of mine was throwing a party for her best friend and her husband. Their 10-year anniversary in December, so a month before ours. In a conversation with some friends, someone asked her what she had planned. “A LOT OF WHITE LINEN…BURLAP DECORATIONS…AND MASON JARS…YOU KNOW, SHABBY CHIC.” I was floored. There was no question that she had clearly copied my entire design for our anniversary party that I had been planning for the last year. I told her verbatim what my plan was and she was even following me on Pinterest.

No more dinner party for us. No more beach views. No more Lighthouse Hotel. No white linen. No burlap. NO MASON JARS. I was done. I surely wasn’t going to have a party the month after with the same items from hers. We aborted mission and had to start from scratch. Thankfully, because I was the experienced Event Planner at the time that I was, I was able to come up with an entirely new direction and we had the celebration of the decade!! We hosted an Anniversary Showcase instead. Untraditional, because that’s who we are. Rented a small theater, hired 2 American Idol finalists to perform (I was a big American Idol fan back then), and hosted an amazing show + night for 200 of our friends and family. We even had a step and repeat backdrop so our guests could take photos with the performers!

And the mason jars, you ask? What happened to them? Well, while we were transitioning out of ‘dinner party’ mindset… My husband goes, you should just show up at her front door with all these mason jars and say (with disgust at their existence and embarrassment that they’re old news): “Here, I don’t even need these anymore.”

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I had to tell that story because it seemed the only + perfect way to explain why I am retiring.

Yes, that’s what I said. I am retiring. At the close of this Leg of the Tour, I will no longer be visiting Tea Rooms and Tea Houses all over the greater San Francisco Bay Area and reviewing + writing about them. I have been at this for over 10 years and I have wanted this since last year. My health isn’t getting any better. (For those that need to catch up, start with this post: ‘I was given 3 years’) As a matter of fact, I only went through with this 4th Leg because my husband said it could be my last…

I will still go to afternoon tea, of course I will. It just won’t be a “job” anymore. I will get to go to all my favorite places with all my favorite people whenever I want, and not have to take notes or take photos of everything (or worse, video ew). Don’t get me wrong. It has been an absolute pleasure getting paid to write and do what I love. And I have met and made real relationships with so many along the way, professional and personal. I just wasn’t a fan of the business and socials part of it all. I am NOT an Influencer or Content Creator. I have ALWAYS first and foremost been a Writer. When I started this website over 10 years ago, I didn’t have to make reels or TikToks to get traffic to my site. And while many of you were still visiting this page even while we were on hiatus for a bit, numbers don’t lie. It is BECAUSE of our social media activity that our views get booming…after that Threads post, or after that funny voiceover I posted on TikTok. And it is through Instagram that I have been able to chat with many of you, and send you to all these places, and hear about how much your party enjoyed them. So I get how social media helps, I really do. However- it’s not where I want to be.

I have also closed my small private gourmet tea boutique. I have cut out a lot of unnecessary activities and distractions around me. I’ve wanted this for a long time! I guess this 4th Leg was my last hurrah. People (the few that I’ve told) have asked what I am going to be doing now that I am moving away from Tea. And- nothing! For however long I have left on this earth, I just want to live it in peace, quiet, and ease.

I read a thread recently. April Kae (I don’t know who she is but I always give credit where due @aprilkae) said: “The worst creative trap is creating only for applause. Don’t. Create for the part of you that needs to be heard.” And it struck a chord with me. I replied: “I feel this. I’ve created for so long… I have told my story, I have felt heard, and now I just want quiet.” Being done with creative ventures means I no longer have to soothe my trauma. To be perfectly honest- I needed all these [good] distractions all my life to keep from crumbling. Now, I’m okay with the quiet. I’ve healed enough to be okay with quiet.

How does this all connect to mason jars?

When I found out someone had stole my idea and tried to sell it to everyone as her own (btw, not the first time that was done to me…read more here)- I was DONE. Get those mason jars out my face, I don’t wanna see another mason jar for as long as I live, don’t ever associate me with mason jars ever again. I just wanted to wash myself from ever having collected them in the first place. They were beneath me. And NO! No one is trying to steal my website. And NO! I don’t think afternoon tea is beneath me. Not at all, never that. With what I see on social media, with Afternoon Tea just being overly saturated (errybody and they gramma wanna serve afternoon tea now) and taking away from the real + purist tea rooms… I just feel done. The aversion I feel isn’t isolated toward tea, the tea community, or even social media per se. To be CLEAR- it is for needing it and using it to put a veil over the repercussions of traumas that I no longer allow to hurt me.

One of my favorite lyrics from a song I appreciate says:

I wanna say I lived each day, until I died

I know that I had something in somebody’s life

The hearts I have touched, will be the proof that I leave

That I made a difference and this world will see

I was here

I lived, I loved, I was here

I did, I’ve done, everything that I wanted

And it was more than I thought it would be

I will leave my mark so everyone will know

I was here

I have made my presence in the Tea and Foodie Community. I have the respect and recognition from reputable people there. I have nothing to prove. “Queen of Tea in the Bay Area” was a name given to me. ORIGINAL CREATOR of “parTEA with me” is who I will always be. No one can change that. (no matter how much they might want to ha)

I am deactivating all my social media accounts. But this website will stay open (with the exception of archiving some more personal posts). If you haven’t already, please please PLEASE enter your email and subscribe to our email list. That will be the only way you can keep up with what we got going on in the future. There are still places I want to try! If I write about them or not…you’ll have to stay tuned. So much love to all of you who have been loyal to parTEA with me from the very beginning. (three prayer hand/gratitude emojis) Every single one of you who have donated have a special place in my heart. There are specific instructions my husband has as well, to update you all on my health… See you again. All Love, Olyve Rose

New Menu Visit:

Muir’s Tea Room

330 S Main Street Sebastopol, CA 94572

www.muirstearoomandcafe. com

The Owner and Chef at Muir’s are basically family at this point. (winky smile) We have been there for each other through deaths in the family and graduations…it’s all love! My favorite part is when they invite me over to try their new themes and I get to fawn all over it + them in a blog post. And then they said “Mermaids!” And then they said “all over the world!” You bet I was in. Couldn’t wait to try everything and couldn’t wait to see them!!

Honestly, this is my favorite seat in the house. I always feel like we have our own private little cove. It’s a little dark, but I love that. Shiny holes of sunshine peek through the leaves…it’s a dream! Then we get sporadic breezes, ugh so good.

Lime Chiffon Rooibos Tea – I love me a lemon chiffon tea, so why not try the lime right!? Oh so good. Creamy, just how I like.

Arnold Palmer – The Huz and Little Girl (she’s actually 14 now, so not so little) had a craving for these, so here are their His + Hers. They were very good. I said they tasted like Gramma just made it fresh for you real quick!

Sebastopol Apple Blossom Prosecco – Perfect ratio. Delicious, they were done so right.

English Garden Prosecco – This one tasted like it had a touch of cinnamon or something, that was really nice.

Seasonal Summertide Salad – They always HIT with the salad. Great dressing, FRESH fresh ingredients. Those red onions are the best red onions of all the red onions. (Office reference!)

Their tiers remain the FULLEST tiers everrr.

Parthenope “Limonchino” Scone from the Southern Italian Coast – Today, I couldn’t get enough of my scone. Most times during a tea service, I don’t have room for a whole scone… Today, this tea service- I ate the whole thing and wanted more. It’s their house-made lemon curd!! No one does it like them, no one.

Orkney Island “Sea Cucumber” Tea Sandwich – That lovely chive. Crunchiest of cucumbers.

“Sirena” Pesto, Seasonal Tomato Tea Sandwich, from Sorrento, Italy – That was the juiciest tomato! Very basily, which is what makes it spectacular.

“Ningyo” Teriyaki Vegetable Puff Pastry, from Japan waterways – I just kept saying “mmm”…”mmm”… The pastry just melts in your mouth. The tofu + veggies had a nice bite to them.

Thetis: Spanikopita Tart from the Cyclade Islands, Greece – Okay this tart was incredible. Again with the crispy distinct layers of pastry! That spinach filling was everything. I want a hundred more for dinner tomorrow. My favorite of the tier and I was so sad to take my last bite.

Atlantis “Un-Tuna” Finger Sandwich – Beautiful toast, nice textures, refreshing veg. The pickled tart was a brilliant addition. The crunch of this I couldn’t get enough!

Wahine hi’u i’a Coconut Cupcake, from Hawaii – Smells like a vacation! MMM.

“Merrow” Orange Shortbread with chocolate drizzle, from Ireland – Just a thin dip of dark chocolate. So good.

Selkie, Strawberry Tart, from Scotland – That cream is like no other. Perfect sweetness, tart strawberries. Couldn’t even save my last bite! The tarts today were the stars!!

Since I booked the last seating of the day, we got to hang out for a bit afterwards and chat with Mom + Chef. I’m telling you- I would choose them as friends even if we never met in the Tea Community. They are such good-hearted people and really just SO GOOD at what they do. It was so special for me (and my family) to hear about the history of Muir’s and future plans. Service was always remarkable. They stocked some new stuff in the store too (don’t you just love gift shops!?). And it was just the best way to spend a Sunday afternoon. Love you so much MUIR’S!!! Thank you for always welcoming me and my family and treating us to such EXEMPLARY TEA.

[such a cool shot taken by the Huz]

All Muir’s Tea Room related posts:

Spot #28 :: Muir’s Tea Room

Spot Revisit :: Muir’s Tea Room (#28) – Best Overall

NEW MENU ALERT! Muir’s Tea Room | Alice in Wonderland

NEW MENU ALERT! Muir’s Tea Room | Holoholo Tiki Tea

NEW MENU ALERT! Muir’s Tea Room | Winter Woodland Wonderland

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[photo by Lady T]

We’re currently 6 months into this Leg. Everything was going smoothly until February hit. That’s when the schedule mess started with Beacon and Spot 53. Little did I know, that was just the beginning… Now, my Spot for April has paused its tea service and my Spot for May doesn’t even have their calendar open yet. (sigh) I check on two surprise/last minute squeeze-in locations (to see if I can still make my time count and do those), and I’m having a hard time even getting through to them. I didn’t want to make any changes for my June visit, because that’s a popular one for my guests (stay tuned for that one!) who are already anticipating that time… So, I check on my July Spot and their website says to make reservations on OpenTable buut when I do- OpenTable says the restaurant has not yet registered with them to accept reservations!? Ay-yay-yay!

As of right now, I did get into one of the surprise* ones (there are 3 in total currently, that could always change) and am currently on the waiting list for another. I’m just gonna have to wait until my April Tea Spot is ready to start offering tea again and fit them in whenever I can. Also still waiting for May’s, so I can schedule that one…which I feel bad that my guests aren’t going to be given the usual amount of time in advance that I like to give. I’m hoping my June Spot won’t give me any problems, and will just deal with my July’s when I get there. All my Spot numbers will be thrown off and topsy-turvy tho, which I don’t like. But what can I do? I guess I’ll manage that one too when it comes down to it. [*when I say “surprise”, I really mean unscheduled or last-minute addition to the Leg.]

Aside from all this (second sigh), I’m hoping the next 8 months of this Leg introduces me to new exceptional places. I’ve already found 2 really good ones, The Caviar Co. and Beacon Grand Hotel, so I’m happy about that. Also thrilled to hear such great feedback from you guys!! I love hearing about reservations yall have made to try Spots you’ve heard about on the blog! That brings me so much joy, forreal. And if you follow us on Threads, you’ll see that I’ve been posting about new (and returning) countries viewing the website from all over the world!! It’s the absolute coolest thing. Hello to our Readers in Malaysia, Netherlands, New Zealand, Lebanon, Portugal (which could have easily been my Sister cuz she was there recently!), Australia, Ireland, Finland, Singapore, Sweden, tons of you in Egypt, Taiwan, Russia, and Namibia!!! And I’ve only been posting on this for the past 2 months…so there’s definitely been more. I SEE YOU ALL and am blown away that this little blog has reached all the way over there!!?! Say hello in the comments or our DM’s, we’d love to hear from all of you!

Everything will work out for this Leg, as it usually does…and I will see you all in our next Review! LOVE YALL SO MUCH. Thanks for sticking around!!

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